The Natural Method
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My one tip for this section is - let it happen!. There's no need to worry about anything! The more you try to pin down what it is that makes a good contact, the more you'll get yourself into a frenzy and over analise the situation. You know, things don't have to be complicated. You don't need to worry about body-language or chat-up lines or any of that stuff if you just keep your options open. Lets get things straight right from the start - do you want to meet people? Are you ready to start a relationship if one comes your way? Be absolutely certain in your mind now - is the answer Yes or No? If you aren't sure then be content with what you have now - be your own best friend and take it easy. If the answer is Yes, then relax and let things happen. As strange as it seems, by simply knowing in your heart and giving yourself a definite answer to this question, the more life will evolve to make things happen. This is an important step to realise. Let me put you in the picture. There are millions of single people in the world today. Of those millions, about half will be interested in meeting someone new - someone just like you. These are poeple you pass by every day of the week. They may be single or they may already have a partner; but there are so many lonely people out there just looking for a change, and their mind is open to the possibility - just like you. All you need to do is make contact and see what happens, and if the chemistry is right - you'll know!
Lets imagine you see somebody for the first time, and your heart wispers something in your ear. You'll get a feeling in the pit of your stomach and your head may start to spin, but you just won't be able to take your eyes off them. You may move around the room or the location, you you'll find yourself always looking in their direction; just looking to see if they notice you. You'll subconciously begin to smile, or something will make you laugh, and you'll turn again to them to see if they see you. Eventaully you casually move closer so you can say 'hello'. The person turns around, finds you kind of attractive in some mysterious way, and sees this as an opportunity to speak to you. At this point you don't need to worry about psychology, you'll say something which naturally starts the conversation. And then, if the chemistry is right, you'll both find you're looking at each other, and standing quite near each other, and smiling, and nodding, and preening - all naturally and subconciously. And then one of you will make a small joke, and you'll both laugh. The nerves and the inhibitions will melt. And then the other will make a comment, and you'll both laugh again - maintaining the eye contact and the closeness as you are both interested in each other. You won't need to think about what you can say to keep the conversation going - you'll just know - and you'll follow your genuine urges to get to know this person better. Both of you will just want to keep talking and talking - no matter how long it takes. You may not even think about throwing in chat-up lines or acting the fool to attract attention, as you are both already getting on just fine. One thing will lead to another, and, still smiling at each other, you'll make arrangements to see each other again. No matter what suggestion you make - a phone number, a date, a 'come back to my place', or even a 'come back and see me next week', the other will graciously accept and will often make suggestions to help make this happen. At the end you'll part and, looking back at each other as you do, your hearts will be heaving, and your heads will be in a whirl or a haze - almost like you're dreaming. And then you'll find a chair or something to lean on and endlessly wonder what the hell just happened. It just happened! Out of a clear blue sky. One time you were on your own; living your own life; sometimes not even thinking about love or parters or anything - and now you've been transported to another place, and suddenly the world is full of potential and life is ripe to lead off in all kinds of directions. And you can't believe it's all just happened - and all so easily - like it was all just 'ment to be'....
This isn't just a pipe dream. This kind of interation happens thousands of times everyday. People just get together and, so long as both people are open and available, things just click! It really is that easy. The point is that nature will take care of all the hard work for you so long as your feelings are genuine. It's a matter of following your heart and letting things happen. Sometimes, the more you try to change that; to manipulate situations or contrive relationships, the more things just don't turn out right. How will you know then you meet an ideal mate? My answer is, you'll just know!
If you'd like to try more direct methods of attraction, they you may like to look at any of the later chapters in this section:
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