Ice Breaking
Here you are, If you are in a public place, club or bar, it can be much easier to break the ice than if you were at work or college - mostly due to the effects of alcohol. Chat-up lines work, but only for those who can use them naturally, but at this stage a good introduction is essential - and first impressions really do matter (See introduction lines). The more confident you are within yourself, the easier you will carry yourself into these confrontations, and the more confident, 'steady' or 'cool' you will appear to your mate. Women tend to appreciate this forthrightness in a man as she is subconsciously looking for a strong, upstanding father figure or provider. Men also look for a certain spirit of character as they are subconsciously looking for a capable motherly figure. Both are looking for an exiting change in their life, and someone who will be stable and supportive, so being able to show these qualities can be very useful.

So, you've stood back, you've watched and waited, and now you've couragiously walked over to your selected mate. Now what? Well that question is so big that I've devoted the whole of the next chapter to it. In general terms, the first meeting is almost the single most crutial stage of getting to know one another. Friendliness, personality, gestures, and questions will all play a part, but on the whole, this process is known as the flirting stage. You'll both be looking each other up and down at this point; sensing each others character in every way possible - though the tone of voice, expressions, gestures, sence-of-humour - anything that will give the game away as to who this person really is. You'll follow each others subconscious signals, and you'll get to know who is interested in who - or not as the case may be. Eventually after the conversation, you'll hopefully know if this person is interesting enough to see more often - and then there is the small matter of exchanging some detail to stay in contact and to get to know each other even more. Telephone numbers are the usual thing, but in this age of hi-tech, it's worth thinking about mobile phones; which almost make sure you can speak to them whenever you like, and can send them text messages to keep things interesting. E-mail is another option. The good thing about E-mail is that you can plan all the things you want to say to this person, and write it all down in as much detail as you like. To me. by far the best option is to give away your web site address. Personal web sites can be a mine of information about the person and their life - and all the other contact details and numbers can be available here to make life easier for all. If your mate gets in touch again to say they enjoyed reading the web site, it can be a handy starting point from which to begin your next conversation.